Everyone is talking about babies, or having babies, or knows someone who's pregnant or had a baby. What's the deal?
So this is my thought on baby fever.
Take it or leave it.
There is no point in having a child for the sake of having a child. How selfish can you be? So you want to just have a little carbon copy of yourself with someone you hardly know so that you can say you did? It just blows my mind. Why would you WANT to have to do that.
Let's be vulgar for a moment.
You have to endure 9 months of swollen feet, back aches, unpredictable mood swings, bizarre food cravings, fatigue, physical sickness, your body stretching and pulling, lifestyle changes, a multitude of appointments where someone has to cover you in jelly and poke around your vag, people staring, people cooing, inability to wear your clothes, questions questions questions, and so much more! for what? spending hours and hours in an uncomfortable hospital bed, where you have to endure arguably the worst pain of your life, where, if everything goes "well" you'll only have vaginal tearing after squeezing something the size of a watermelon out of something the size of a lemon. yay. sign me up.
not to mention all the other crap that you have to deal with in life outside of the physical.
2 months without sex.
9 months without drinking or smoking.
3 months no exercise.
months and months trying to get your body back to how it was before the baby.
I just really and truly do not understand what all the hype is about.
And kids are having kids. why so young? what is the appeal to a 14 year old to even HAVE sex? blood, pain, heartbreak. not exactly a winning combination.
Nevermind a child that poops, eats, sleeps, and screams. that's worse than a puppy and I bet if you gave 80% of teens a puppy they would forget to feed it or get sick of it or abuse it in some way. and that's a puppy! what about a baby? forget about it.
Societal Pressure.
There is a novel idea. girls are getting their periods so much younger than they used to. which is basically the same as a cat going into heat. they become these walking skanks with one mission. And the ones that think its wrong? who cares. Look at the media! look at ANY magazine. the people they see on the disney channel everyday are getting married, having babies, arrested for cocaine. however, disney makes kids believe that the people they see on that channel are the same age as them. newsflash. they are upwards of ten years older than you. they live in an apartment in NY, they drink on a regular basis because its legal, and they have kids because they are married. you? don't have a license. congrats.
seriously.
all that aside. I think that people in general are de-evolving. an idea i heard from a friend of a friend. Back in the old days, girls were married and mothers by the time they were thirteen. and now in the 21st century we arent far off from that number. People are no longer waiting to get married. or waiting to have kids. People are even growing to be much shorter than they were 20 years ago. Perhaps science can figure out what the drastic change means. Or maybe, people are just preparing for 2012 when we all die in a pit of flames. who knows?
But today. right now.
things are out of hand.
getting pregnant wont make him stay with you. and it won't make you popular or any more well-off of well-liked. It might seem like a novel idea, but why wouldn't you wait until you can actually enjoy it? Until your mother won't be disappointed. Until your father won't kick the shit out of the "father". Until you are with someone who thinks you're beautiful even when you're 8 1/2 months pregnant. Until you're old enough to realize that you are Not in fact the only person in the world who matters.
Until you're absolutely ready to be a mom. not just a mother.
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